Join the discussion on how to stop domestic violence in Gympie
Join the discussion on how to stop domestic violence in Gympie Christopher Chan

Can Gympie be the first town to end the violence?

Welcome to the Great Gympie Domestic Violence Discussion.

ON FEBRUARY 1, 2016, Australian of the Year, David Morrison, rejected claims about domestic violence statistics: "Get real Australia. We run the risk at times of being a nation of bystanders comforted by a set of statistics."
Get real, Gympie. We run the risk of not doing everything we can to put the brakes on domestic violence.
I propose we put Gympie on the map as the first town to end the violence.
As Bernadette from the women's refuge said, "Geologically, we're the town to do it; look at the way we come together to manage the floods and..."
It's my opinion that almost anything can be accepted as normal if it ferments - that's how cultures grow.
 Repeated actions over a long period of time become accepted as the way things are, and that's precisely how the culture of abuse of women grew, in every town and city across Australia.
The end to the violence can be achieved through a council of minds; the coming together of everyone and anyone with even the most seemingly futile idea.
If you're passionate about this topic; if you know someone trapped in the brutal cycle of domestic violence; if you are a victim or a survivor, we invite you to join the Great Gympie Domestic Violence Discussion.
To be held at the Gympie Civic Centre on March 18, 2016, from 7pm, this event will be advertised in coming weeks, but if you have a question you would like to see on the program, please email us at or
David Morrison understands statistics.
I wonder how many of you know someone who never made the stats.
For me, there is my mother and one of my best friends (a Gympie girl) who were buried without mention or justice.
I believe the key to ending the violence is to introduce small actions that will become acceptable.
I also believe that we cannot continue digging the same holes to fall down.
For instance, currently we advise victims to call the police, ring a helpline, or run to shelter.
In fact, politicians plan to contribute millions of taxpayers' money into training police, and help-line support, and building more women's refuges.
Abused women don't want to run to shelters, talk to strangers, or be interrogated by men in uniform, and police don't want to attend DV situations (because there is little they can do until a woman is very seriously injured or dead).
 I am going to break my silence and make a proposal.
Thousands of men have signed up to White Ribbon. As eager as they are to act, there is little they can do.
They may not know it (yet) but most of these men have an abusive mate.
Imagine if women felt safe to approach the White Ribbon decent bloke.
While police intervention can cause more problems for a woman, the abuser's mate will defuse the situation. It's so simple I can't believe this method has not been used.
There is no danger here. Don't let the authorities tell you there is.
Abusive men do not beat women in front of their decent mates.
A decent bloke will take the abuser home for the night - until he is back to his senses.
The assistance of a decent bloke avoids court and family disgrace etc.
The woman can stay in her own home with the children.
The silence is broken - the abuser has been named and shamed in his circle - which saves him public humiliation and is positive for the entire family and conductive to change.
This method of dealing with domestic violence would save millions in taxpayers' money.
This is just one of the topics which will be discussed at the Great Gympie DV Discussion! We welcome every suggestion.
M. Kelly,